Let me keep it funky and say that I never attempt to speak on behalf of all men. In fact, no man should try to speak on behalf of all men. And while we're there, women shouldn't ask a man to speak on behalf of all men.
With that said, what I'm going to write about is based on my own experiences and those of men that I'm closely associated with. It may extend to men outside my circle but if you're a female and reading this please don't run to you're man talking bout.. AH HA, I read C's blog and he said you're acting this way because.....
Don't blame me.
Commitment issues. Lots of guys have them. Lots of women do too, contrary to popular belief (which comes from the propaganda spread by evil men-hating women). Men aren't sluts by nature. People are. Men don't pipe everything that is presented in front of them. Good men don't have that amount of trouble finding ways to have sex. With that said, there are more reasons that men start smashing the breaks when it's time to cross over into Wifeyville. Understand that as much as women have been hurt by men, men have also been hurt by women. And not wanting to put a title on a relationship can just as often have to do with submitting emotions and feelings to a female as is it can be about still wanting to plow shorty around the corner.
There are dudes that are perpetual wifers. I'm not referring to those gentlemen.
Actually being in a relationship is to give to someone something that you had full control over before. They can control your feelings, affect your day, have an effect on your life. It's not just about monogamy. Or at least it shouldn't be.
It's about someone expecting things of you and you agreeing to adhere to those expectations.
Why is it that when women have their guards up it's because men are slime buckets but when men have their guards up it's because they are whores who want to hold on to their whoredom??
Let me make one thing clear: It's not socially acceptable for men to be whores. Women don't accept that and men don't care about what other men do. Men aren't patting each other on the back for having a truckload of sexual conquests. Whether a guy slept with 3 girls or 300 girls, other guys couldn't care less. Women care. And women don't find that particularly attractive either. Plus, if you really think about it, girls that are jumpoffs get wifed up too. So who's really judging them?? Think about it. Women.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.
I digress. I guess I'm starting the All Men Aren't Scumbags Campaign. What we sometimes can be is simply scared. Yeah, I said it. Men can also be afraid to be hurt, afraid to be played, afraid to mess shit up, afraid that things are going to change because sometimes once you enter Wifeyhood, things do change. Sometimes they don't. So if your dude asks you to be patient with him and he's there for you all the time anyway, don't jump to decide that he's clearly ramming ever chick in a 20-block radius, try to understand what is inhibitions are. Find out why he is the way he is and feels the way he feels. The same as you would expect from him.
Randomness.....
There was an old guy in the train station with probably six teeth in his mouth and a boombox at his side and could sing 50 times better than most artists with a deal right now. .... I need someone to go to Rockefeller Center and sign this dude. He was beasting Sam Cooke songs. ... If the Giants lose one more game I'm going to go out to Jersey and start throwing rocks at passing limos and Escalades. .... Why the hell have I felt tired every single day for nearly the passed two weeks? ... The best way to say I'm sorry is with good head. ... The best way to say hello is with good head. ... Best way to say goodbye is with good head. .... Ahh head is great. ... For some reason I've been looking at people in the street lately and thinking about how'd I'd dress them. .... I been disappointed in myself a lot lately. ... I've been proud of the Knicks even when they lose. ... Didn't think I'd ever say that. .... People in general are full of shit. ... You spit like a llama and you look like a llama. .... You know who you are. ... I went to the mall the other day and all I have to see if I see Santa I swear we gonna have to shot the fair one. .... I miss a good game of Hustle. ... Just cause you like sex that doesn't make you a freak. .... Just cause you "never got any complaints" doesn't mean you're good at it. ... Heroes is one of the best TV dramas in the history of TV. ... Shoutout to them having a black actor play the president. Now that's Obama fo yo mama. ... I need a new pair of jeans like nobody's business. ... T.I.'s album is crack. So is Kayne's. Luda's cd is aight. ... I haven't cut my facial hair in like two months and I still don't have a goatee. This is bullshit. ... I'd keep writing but my laptop is gonna die. ... In my mind, I'm listening to the Miseducation of Lauryn Hill.
Ya'll already know what it is.
C
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
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3 comments:
men are scared... ummm don't know if i buy that one. not yet anyway.
what you're writin about is right up there with hearin girls over and over again said "all the good men are gone". It's bull - ish. I'm glad you're speakin on some of the double standards that go the other way too.
"All Men Aren't Scumbags Campaign"
I'd like to join this campaign. Sign me up!
But you did kind-of mess up your campaign with the "The best way to say hello is with good head" line.
SMH
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